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The key to getting unstuck from problematic behaviors is to increase your capacity to deeply notice the pain that provokes them. Our goal is not to escape, avoid, or control suffering, but to slow down and expand our ability to sit with pain. In other words, relate with those things you’re struggling against in open, mindful, and engaged ways. With that foundation, you can create a story for your life based on your wisest core values.
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We do this by learning how to:
Lean into the pain; increase your capacity to hold the pain.
Strategies that try and prevent or escape suffering constrict your life. Rather than prevent pain, we will find ways of relating to it that expand your life.
Identify that thoughts are just thoughts.
Track, with wise, grounded awareness, how you respond to painful thoughts & sensations. In the midst of seeing your pain, identify broad creative options of how to respond. (Rather than seeing your options through the limiting lens of pain.)
Be present in THIS moment, without getting pulled into old scripts, or into future worries.
Recognize that your thoughts (even about yourself) are not you, they’re an experience you are having. You are separate from your experiences. You can create your own meaning.
Identify your chosen core values.
Who is your “best self?” What does your “best self” like to do? How would your “best self” respond to this painful trigger?
Exercise your agency to create a life based on your core values (even in the presence of pain.)
“My pain doesn’t dictate what’s possible… I do.”
In Summary:
IN THIS MOMENT
I’M HOLDING MY PAIN
SO THAT I CAN CHOOSE
TO DO THE THINGS I CARE ABOUT
Lean into the pain; increase your capacity to hold the pain.
Strategies that try and prevent or escape suffering constrict your life. Rather than prevent pain, we will find ways of relating to it that expand your life.
Identify that thoughts are just thoughts.
Track, with wise, grounded awareness, how you respond to painful thoughts & sensations. In the midst of seeing your pain, identify broad creative options of how to respond. (Rather than seeing your options through the limiting lens of pain.)
Be present in THIS moment, without getting pulled into old scripts, or into future worries.
Recognize that your thoughts (even about yourself) are not you, they’re an experience you are having. You are separate from your experiences. You can create your own meaning.
Identify your chosen core values.
Who is your “best self?” What does your “best self” like to do? How would your “best self” respond to this painful trigger?
Exercise your agency to create a life based on your core values (even in the presence of pain.)
“My pain doesn’t dictate what’s possible… I do.”
In Summary:
IN THIS MOMENT
I’M HOLDING MY PAIN
SO THAT I CAN CHOOSE
TO DO THE THINGS I CARE ABOUT
